Publications
Chapter Title: Rising From the Ashes of a House That Didn’t Burn
At first glance, Darla Ridilla had the storybook life: a mountain dream home, a fairytale proposal, and a relationship others envied. But behind the scenes, she was slowly being erased—emotionally manipulated, gaslit, and drained of her power.
In her gripping chapter, “Rising From the Ashes of a House That Didn’t Burn,” Darla shares the moment she hit rock bottom—face down on the floor, planning her escape from a life that had become unbearable. But instead of ending her story, she chose to rewrite it.
This raw and powerful chapter is a testament to what it means to stop self-abandoning, to face the truth, and to rise stronger. Darla’s story speaks to every high-achieving woman who’s ever lost herself behind a polished exterior—reminding us that survival isn’t the goal. Radical self-respect is.
As a somatic trauma-informed coach and founder of High Value Woman, Darla now helps other women break free from toxic relationship patterns and rewrite their own lives—starting from within.
In The Gratitude Effect: Your Path to a Life You Love, Darla Ridilla joins a powerful collective of women who have turned their hardest moments into fuel for healing and growth. In her chapter, Darla shares the deeply personal story of how a painful breakup became one of the greatest teachers of her life. With honesty and heart, she explores the unexpected gratitude that can emerge when a relationship ends—and how loss can open the door to self-worth, clarity, and reinvention.
Whether you’re navigating heartbreak, change, or simply searching for more meaning in your life, this book offers a roadmap to transformation through the lens of gratitude. Darla’s story is a reminder that even in the ache of goodbye, there are gifts waiting to be claimed.
The Power of Healthy Relationships in the Workplace
In today’s fast-paced professional world, the strength of our workplace relationships can make or break collaboration, productivity, and overall morale. In this insightful article, relationship coach Darla Ridilla explores how trust, trauma-informed communication, and healthy boundaries are essential to building a thriving team culture. You'll learn how to identify toxic dynamics, navigate conflict with emotional intelligence, and lead with empathy—while fostering inclusivity and psychological safety. Whether you're a leader, team member, or changemaker, this piece offers practical strategies to transform your workplace into one where connection drives success.
This isn’t just another feel-good read.
This is for the woman who’s tired of nodding yes when everything in her body is screaming no.
Tired of over-giving. Over-functioning. Over-explaining.
Tired of being told she’s too much - when the truth is, she’s been giving too much for too long.
Inside these pages, 30+ women share what it really looks like to stop abandoning yourself and start honoring what you need - without guilt.
✅ Boundaries in relationships, family, career & health
✅ Saying no without fear or apology
✅ Reclaiming your energy, your voice, your peace
📘 Each story is raw, real, and filled with insight.
🖊️ And after each chapter? You’re invited to reflect, journal, and act - because change happens when you do.
This book is more than a read.
It’s a reclamation.
In this deeply personal and powerful article, I share my journey from a turbulent childhood to becoming a woman who helps others rise from their own rock bottom. It’s a raw look at how early trauma shaped my relationships, my self-worth, and ultimately, my transformation.
Through a series of life-altering events—from escaping an abusive home, navigating toxic relationships, surviving emotional devastation, and confronting narcissistic abuse—I discovered that resilience isn’t a finish line. It’s a daily decision. One rooted in self-awareness, honesty, and the courage to rise again—no matter how many times you've been knocked down.
This article isn’t just about surviving pain. It’s about owning your story, choosing growth, and using your experiences to help others heal.
👉 Read the full article in Force Magazine and discover how the path to resilience begins—one day at a time.
What if being single isn’t something to fix—
but a season to finally meet yourself?
In this powerful interview with Bold Journey Magazine, I share what most women are too afraid to say out loud:
I wasn’t unlucky in love.
I was unavailable to myself.
I had the career. I had the confidence.
But I kept attracting the same emotionally unavailable men… because deep down, I was abandoning me.
This article is a raw look at how I stopped settling, reclaimed my voice, and redefined what it means to be a high-value woman—in life, in love, and most importantly, in my relationship with myself.
If you’re a high-performing woman who’s tired of overfunctioning in relationships and finally ready to choose wholeness over codependency… start here.