From Pain to Power: A Journey to Healing and Wholeness

In a moving episode of Breaking the Silence: Healing from Domestic Abuse, host Darla Ridilla sat down with the remarkable Tivona Elliott, better known as Lady V, to share a raw, unfiltered, and deeply inspiring story of survival, transformation, and self-love. Lady V doesn’t just speak her truth—she roars it, embodying the very framework she teaches others: Release, Rebuild, Rebrand.

Surviving Darkness, Reclaiming Light

Lady V’s journey began with unimaginable trauma. Molested at age 8, on the streets by age 10, living a life steeped in pain, chaos, and survival, she candidly recounts her early years trying to escape the “monsters” in her own home. Her 20s were marked by anger, her 30s by pain, and her 40s by a reckoning.

“I didn’t know who I was. I looked in the mirror and didn’t recognize the woman staring back at me.”

That moment of self-confrontation became her turning point.

Breaking the Cycle: Domestic Abuse and Awakening

Despite striving for love and stability, Lady V found herself in a pattern of domestic relationships rooted in trauma. After being told she wasn’t “marriage material,” she internalized those beliefs—until she realized they were lies. Lies placed on her by others and reinforced by the pain she had never fully released.

She later married a narcissist, not out of love, but from a desire to prove her worth. That decision became a mirror, revealing how deeply she needed to heal.

The Power of Release: Healing Begins with Letting Go

Lady V teaches that the first step in transformation is release—releasing trauma, limiting beliefs, and false narratives.

“We lie to ourselves thinking we’re okay, but all we’re doing is piling pain under the rug. Eventually, that rug becomes a mountain we can’t see past.”

Once she started shedding these emotional weights, the physical toll began to lift too. Back pain eased. Her energy returned. She could breathe again.

The ROAR Method: A Blueprint for Transformation

Her signature ROAR Method is both practical and powerful:

• Release what no longer serves you.

• Overcome the limiting beliefs and trauma.

• Awaken the inner rebel—the real you that’s been silenced.

• Rise into your power and purpose.

This methodology isn’t just theory; it’s her lived experience.

From Broken to Bold: Doing It Afraid

One of the most poignant takeaways from Lady V is the mantra: “Do it afraid.” Whether it was publishing her book The Unmarritable, launching her Too Gone Too Long network, or completing 128 podcast interviews in six months, she did each of them while scared—but did them anyway.

Her authenticity is her superpower.

“Your story matters—even if it only heals one person. That one is enough.”

Living from the Overflow

Lady V passionately explains why we must stop giving from our depleted cups and instead give from our overflow:

“The moment you break that $20 bill, it’s gone. That’s how it is when you give from your cup. Protect it. Refill it. Then give from the extra.”

This message is a lifeline to so many women who, like her, have spent years overgiving and undervaluing themselves.

Your Voice is Your Power

Whether it’s through her coaching, her Awaken the Rebel Within workbook, or her upcoming women’s conference, Lady V continues to amplify voices that have long been silenced.

She emphasizes:

• Everyone has a story.

• Everyone deserves to be heard.

• And no one should have to heal alone.

Her judgment-free platform is a safe space where survivors can speak their truth without fear, shame, or invalidation.

Final Words of Wisdom

“You are more than enough. You are a priority. You are worthy of everything your heart desires. And you don’t need permission from anyone but yourself to heal.”

Take the First Step: From Stuck to Starting

If you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or afraid—Lady V offers this advice:

• Start with a list: What do you need for you?

• Set 3 simple goals between now and the end of the year.

• And if you’re ready to go deeper, consider her course or workbook: Awaken the Rebel Within.

Let Your Story Be Your Strength

Lady V’s journey is a testament to the power of choosing yourself—even when it’s hard. Her resilience is proof that we don’t have to stay broken. We can rise. We can roar.

If you’ve been inspired by this blog, share it. Send me an email at highvaluewoman7@gmail.com. Start the conversation. Because healing is a ripple—and your story may be the spark someone else is waiting for.