From Fear to Freedom: The Power of Speaking Your Truth
- High Value Woman
- Sep 15
- 4 min read
Silence is seductive. It convinces us that keeping quiet will protect us—that we’ll keep the peace, avoid rejection, or stay safe if we just hold our tongue. But silence is the real prison. I know because I’ve lived there. I’ve swallowed words to keep abusers comfortable. I’ve minimized chaos to protect family. I’ve hidden my truth because I was terrified of being called too much. And while I stayed silent, the cost was high: anxiety, hypervigilance, depression, resentment.
Here’s the radical truth: silence doesn’t protect you. It destroys you from the inside out.
And if you want freedom—if you want wholeness—you must be willing to speak your truth, no matter who it rattles.
Why Charlie Kirk’s Death Hit Me So Hard
The assassination of Charlie Kirk shook me to my core.
Not because I agreed with everything he said—who ever agrees 100% with anyone? But because, love him or hate him, Charlie embodied communication with conviction. He spoke his truth boldly, even knowing it made him unpopular, even knowing it made him a target.
As a conservative, I agreed with much of what he stood for. But even if I hadn’t—even if his values opposed mine completely—I would have never wished harm on him. Death and tragedy should never be the answer to differences in belief.
The night I watched his wife address the nation, tears streamed down my face. Her honesty, her courage in talking about their three-year-old daughter asking where her father was—that’s communication at its rawest, most vulnerable form.
What gutted me wasn’t just the tragedy of a man’s life cut short—it was the reminder that words carry risk. Charlie knew there were threats. He showed up anyway. He stood in integrity, even though it cost him everything.
That level of conviction challenges me—and it should challenge all of us.
Because the truth is, I could be killed for my words too. That’s not an exaggeration. I’ve lived in fear of it before. It’s part of why I left Colorado years ago. But I refuse to live in fear now. If something were to happen to me, my truth has already been spoken. It cannot be undone. And that truth set me free.
The Price of Silence vs. the Pain of Truth
Speaking your truth comes with risk. You may lose people. You may be rejected. You may be demonized.
When I began speaking publicly about my ex-husband and other abusers in my life, some people looked away. Others unfriended me. A few even tried to silence me. That stung—but it didn’t destroy me.
Silence had already destroyed me. Silence had already cost me years of my life, stuck in relationships that demanded I abandon myself.
So yes, rejection hurts. But the cost of silence is far greater.
Communication as Liberation
For years, I didn’t know how to communicate without violence. My words were weapons because I didn’t know another way. But healing taught me something radical: communication doesn’t have to be cruel to be clear.
This is where nonviolent communication comes in. It’s not about silencing your anger or sugarcoating your truth—it’s about expressing yourself with clarity, honesty, and respect. It’s the difference between lashing out and standing firm.
I’ve learned to say:
“This doesn’t work for me.”
“If this doesn’t change, I’ll walk away.”
“You will not talk to me like that again.”
That’s not aggression—it’s integrity. Nonviolent communication allows you to hold your boundaries without crushing the other person. It lets you tell the truth without abandoning compassion.
And it’s the same kind of integrity I saw in Charlie. Whether you agreed with his politics or not, his words were unfiltered. He didn’t shrink. He didn’t silence himself to make people comfortable. He spoke boldly, and in that, he modeled what it means to live true.
Why This Matters for You
Here’s what I want you to hear: you don’t have to go on a stage, start a podcast, or speak to the world like I do. That’s not everyone’s path. But you do have to tell the truth in your own life. To yourself. To the people who matter. To the people who’ve hurt you.
Because silence will never keep you safe—it only keeps you stuck.
Your truth is the filter. The ones who can’t handle it were never your people anyway.
My Challenge to You
If you’ve been shrinking, silencing, or settling, ask yourself:
Where have I been quiet to keep the peace?
What truth am I terrified to say out loud?
What would freedom look like if I finally spoke it?
You don’t have to wait for permission. You don’t have to wait until it feels safe. Courage isn’t the absence of fear—it’s the decision to speak anyway.
Charlie Kirk had that courage. His wife showed it in her grief. And I choose it every time I open my mouth about the hardest parts of my story.
Now it’s your turn.
Ready to Break Free?
If this hit home, I invite you to book a free Pattern Breakthrough Call. We’ll uncover what’s really fueling the exhaustion and resentment in your relationships, the patterns that keep pulling you back into the same cycles, and what it looks like to finally lead from wholeness instead of fear.
No pressure. No pretense. Just truth, clarity, and your next step forward.
Comments