Reclaiming Your Voice After Narcissistic Abuse – Part 2: From Trauma to Sovereignty with Tina Djuretic

In this second part of my four-part series on Reclaiming Your Voice After Narcissistic Abuse, I had the incredible honor of speaking with Canadian author Tina Djuretic, whose memoir Finding My Sovereignty is a brutally honest, deeply moving account of trauma, toxic relationships, and spiritual healing.

Tina’s story is one many will recognize all too well: raised in an emotionally volatile household by a bipolar mother and an abusive father, she spent her early life internalizing the message that love must be earned through suffering. What followed were three toxic relationships that mirrored the chaos of her childhood—each one dressed in a different disguise, but all rooted in the same core wound: unworthiness.

"Each monster wore a different suit."

One of the most powerful things Tina shared was the realization that abuse often repeats itself in patterns—not because we’re broken, but because we’ve been conditioned. “Each monster wore a different suit,” she said, describing how each of her partners used different tactics—love bombing, trauma bonding, or manipulation—to gain control. From unrequited love to addiction-fueled chaos, Tina’s relationships taught her the same painful lesson until she was finally ready to ask a different question—not what’s wrong with them?, but what’s happening in me that keeps attracting this?

That shift in perspective became the catalyst for her healing.

Trauma Bonding, Spiritual Awakening, and a New Beginning

After her final breakup, Tina found herself emotionally shattered and spiritually depleted. But instead of collapsing, she reached out—to a channeller, a guide who helped her understand the deeper karmic and energetic roots of her suffering.

From that point, everything changed.

She began to understand the concept of generational trauma—how dysfunction, unworthiness, and abuse are passed down like heirlooms until someone decides to break the chain. Tina became that cycle breaker. She began journaling, writing her story, and eventually transformed her pain into a memoir that’s now changing lives.

“We don’t get what we want. We get what we are.”

Tina’s healing journey wasn’t quick or easy. It was filled with moments of radical honesty, painful reflection, and deep spiritual awakening. She explored the energetic nature of narcissistic abuse—how narcissists, with overdeveloped power chakras, are drawn to empaths with underdeveloped boundaries. She spoke candidly about how her own empathy, once unprotected, made her a target—and how reclaiming her power meant learning to say no, mean it, and walk away when necessary.

But most importantly, Tina emphasized this: healing doesn’t require money—it requires willingness.

Through free tools like YouTube meditations, journaling, and guided introspection, she began to slowly rewire the patterns of self-abandonment and reclaim her sovereignty.

You Don’t Have to Stay

If you’re reading this and wondering whether what you’re experiencing is abuse—trust yourself. As Tina said so clearly:

“If you think you’re in a narcissistic relationship, you probably are.”

And no, it will not get better. Narcissists don’t suddenly become emotionally available, accountable, or supportive. The love they gave you at the beginning was a mask—and your hope of getting that version of them back is what keeps you trapped.

Leaving isn’t easy. It might take planning, secrecy, or outside support. But it is possible. And your future self—the one who wakes up calm, grounded, and unafraid—will thank you.

Final Thoughts

Tina’s story is a reminder that you are not alone. There is life after narcissistic abuse. There is healing. There is sovereignty. And there is a version of you who no longer bends to be loved.

This episode was a deep dive into the realities of trauma, manipulation, and ultimately—empowerment. If you haven’t already, be sure to listen to the full conversation, and check out Tina’s memoir Finding My Sovereignty for a guide to healing, forgiveness, and freedom.

✨ Next in the series: We’ll explore how to speak up without guilt after narcissistic abuse. Subscribe so you don’t miss it.