I’m so excited to share that I will be speaking at the Fearless and Flourishing Women’s Empowerment Event in honor of International Women’s Day. This event is about women coming together to share our stories of adversity, healing, and transformation—stories that remind us of our strength, resilience, and ability to thrive in the face of challenges.
The topic I’ll be speaking on is "Rising from the Shadows: My Journey from Trauma to Transformation." Today, I want to give you a glimpse into my journey—how I turned pain into purpose, how I recognized patterns within myself, and how I reframed my past struggles into valuable lessons.
The False Narratives We Carry
As many of you know, I grew up in a dysfunctional home where love was conditional, and emotional instability was the norm. The narratives I internalized as a child told me that I wasn’t deserving of love—that I was too much, that I needed to shrink myself to be accepted. Without even realizing it, I carried those beliefs into adulthood, seeking relationships that reinforced that unhealthy comfort zone.
I found myself drawn to men who were either abusive or emotionally unavailable, not because I wanted to suffer, but because it was what I knew. It validated the deep-seated fears I had about myself. If a relationship was painful, I assumed it was because I wasn’t enough—because I had to work harder to prove my worth.
Breaking the Cycle of Toxic Relationships
The biggest revelation came when I finally had to face the common denominator in all my relationships: me. It wasn’t that I was responsible for the abuse, but I was responsible for who I chose and why I stayed. That truth was hard to swallow, but it was also incredibly empowering—because if I was the common thread, that meant I had the power to change.
Even as recently as a few months ago, I had to ask myself:
🔹 Why was I attracted to the men I chose last year?
🔹 What about them felt familiar to me?
🔹 What patterns was I still repeating?
The woman I am today would not have entertained those same relationships. The moment a man was evasive, inconsistent, or emotionally distant, I would have recognized the red flags and walked away. That growth is something I own—not with regret, but with gratitude for the lessons.
The Power of Discomfort in Growth
One of the hardest parts of healing is learning to sit in discomfort. When we step away from toxic people, unhealthy habits, or environments that no longer serve us, we can feel lost. The loneliness can be intense, but running back to what’s familiar only delays our growth.
I’ve had to learn to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Right now, as I prepare to move to Colorado, I feel it more than ever. I’m leaving behind friendships, habits, and places that no longer resonate with me. And while it’s tempting to fill the void with old patterns, I know that sitting in the discomfort will accelerate my healing, rather than delaying it.
Discomfort has an expiration date—it’s temporary. But the growth that comes from it is permanent.
Reframing Failures as Lessons
For so long, I saw my past relationships and friendships as failures. I felt like I had wasted time, made mistakes, and had nothing to show for it. But I now realize that nothing was wasted—every experience, even the painful ones, shaped the woman I am today.
Every relationship that ended, every painful lesson I learned, brought me closer to the future version of myself—the version that stands in her power, makes aligned decisions, and no longer settles for less than she deserves.
If you’re going through a transition in your life, I want you to ask yourself:
🔹 What if this isn’t happening to me, but for me?
🔹 What if this pain is actually shaping me into something greater?
🔹 What if my future self is thanking me right now for choosing growth over comfort?
When we start to shift our perspective, we free ourselves from regret, self-blame, and fear.
Finding Purpose in Healing
For me, healing has turned into a calling—helping women reclaim their power, rewrite their narratives, and attract healthy love. But your purpose doesn’t have to be public—it can simply be choosing joy, fulfillment, and inner peace.
Your transformation has a ripple effect. Even if you don’t realize it, your healing journey inspires others. Maybe a friend sees your strength and decides to leave a toxic relationship. Maybe your children learn what self-love looks like. Maybe someone watching from a distance finally finds the courage to step into their power.
That’s why events like Fearless and Flourishing are so powerful. Women sharing their stories create space for others to heal, grow, and rise.
Join Me at the Fearless and Flourishing Women’s Empowerment Event!
If my journey resonates with you, I invite you to join me at this incredible event on International Women’s Day. I’ll be sharing my full story, along with other incredible women who have overcome adversity and turned their pain into power.
✨ Free registration here: https://bit.ly/Fearless_Flourishing ✨
If you take one thing away from this post, let it be this: You are not broken. You are evolving. And your future self is waiting for you to step into your power.
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